Stories In The Imagination
At the end of each story you can spend a moment having the child or student visualize themselves handling one problematic behavior in a more calm and positive way. For best results, use an audio daily at school. For children that have difficulty sleeping use it nightly at bedtime. After all of the stories have been played, your child may choose a favorite story. It is always interesting to see which story is preferred because that story usually addresses what the child needs to work on. If a child wants to listen to a specific story again and again, this might indicate that he is listening in order to resolve that issue. Just make sure they listen to all 11 stories. Don’t be concerned if your child goes to sleep during its use.
Importance Of Positive Self-Talk
Positive self-talk and visualizing positive behaviors are included in every story and are the key in helping children change their self-image. People can change the image they have of themselves on an intellectual level but be unable to change their feelings about themselves. For example, a child’s grades may improve and he/she can see the improvement, yet the child may still have a great deal of fear and anxiety about their school work. Positive self-talk used in a deep state of relaxation leaves a strong impression at the emotional or feeling level. Here are some examples of how positive self-talk can be used. You may wish to develop appropriate ones for your child according to his/her own needs. . For children who are easily angered: “When I get angry, I can take a few deep breaths and speak in a calmer way. I will not hit anyone or anything. I can talk about how I feel instead”. Teach your children how to express feelings appropriately and give permission to do so by using the words, “I feel” and then as a parent, listen and respond to those feelings your child has revealed. Giving children permission to express feelings in this way lessens the need for explosive behavior. It is important for parents to learn to be relaxed too. Children often experience stress in the presence of a teacher or parent who is irritated, impatient or excited. This in turn can elicit hyperactive, impulsive, irritable, or negative responses. By learning to be calm and having more patience you will experience greater family harmony and happier and less oppositional children.