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Importance Of Positive Self-Talk
Here are some examples of how positive self-talk can be used. You may wish to develop appropriate ones for your child according to his/her own needs. . For children who are easily angered: “When I get angry, I can take a few deep breaths and speak in a calmer way. I will not hit anyone or anything. I can talk about how I feel instead”. Teach your children how to express feelings appropriately and give permission to do so by using the words, “I feel” and then as a parent, listen and respond to those feelings your child has revealed. Giving children permission to express feelings in this way lessens the need for explosive behavior.
It is important for parents to learn to be relaxed too. Children often experience stress in the presence of a teacher or parent who is irritated, impatient or excited. This in turn can elicit hyperactive, impulsive, irritable, or negative responses. By learning to be calm and having more patience you will experience greater family harmony and happier and less oppositional children.